Thursday, May 31, 2012

In the begining...

ACoA.  Do you know what the acronym stands for?  Adult Children of Alcoholics.

Tough subject, right?

Alcoholism, it is a word that causes people to back away.  No one wants to talk about alcoholism, no one wants to admit they are an alcoholic, and no one sure as hell wants to air their family's dirty laundry about their alcoholic uncle or mother.  But that is what I am here for.

Growing up I found that it was difficult to cope with many of the feelings I had towards my mother for being an alcoholic.  I was mad at her.  I was mad at the situation.  I was mad I could not make her love me enough to stop drinking.  

Does that last sentence ring a bell?

Your family and friends who are alcoholics do love you, and that will never change.  What won't change?  No matter how much you beg, plead, and cry it will not stop the alcoholic from drinking.  The only thing you can do is care for yourself and love yourself.  Know that you are an amazing person and that you are going to be ok.  Trust me, it is all easier said than done, and I am still working on it too.

Do you know someone who is an alcoholic?  How do you deal with the tough times?